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jozi
12:27 PM
29/01/2006

Bajan Women Loosing their me to Foreigners

I would really like to know why Bajan women seem to be loosing their men to foreign women. Could it be their attitude towards the men. And no, before I am lynched I am not a Guyanese, but closer attention must be paid to the underlying problem. Could this also be the reason why there is so much domestic abuse. Some women seem to think that they could do as they want, how they want and when they want not caring about the other partner in the relationship.

I was speaking to a good friend, and asked him why he doesn't have a woman. He told me that he is holding out for a foreign woman because he cannot take a Bajan woman. In his words "Bajan women threat you good for three months before they show their true colors, but a foreign woman threat you good all the time". This truely makes you wonder and he is not the only Bajan man that I have heard with this comment. So I think a study should be done to find out what is the real issues surrounding Bajan women and men.

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hdavid1208
01:51 PM
06/02/2006
*.*.84.195

BAJAN WOMEN

I'm sorry, but we are not losing them we are giving them away. Bajan
men treat non-Bajan women better than they treat their own Bajan women.
Also, some people show a good face until they get the next person all
caught up in the relationship then show their true colors. There is enough
blame to go around for both men and women. There are lousy men out there
the same way there are lousy women. I refuse to take on the responsibility
for what some man's last girlfreind did. if he had a problem with her
and she unfair him then take it out on her.

We also need to recognize that true love does not choose a particular
nationality to fall in love with, it chooses a person for who they are and
how they treat and the special things about that other person. Nationality
is the last thing you look at when you looking for true love and a solid
commitment.

juju101
08:31 PM
10/02/2006
*.*.48.86

Re: BAJAN WOMEN

Hahahaha Hdavid,

I love your response to Jozi, good going girl! If they are not good
to you then give them away.

This same argument came up years ago, when the dating White women bug
hit Black men, and one sister's response to that was, that most black
men are trifling, and white women are desperate because a lot of white men
are homosexual, and if they want trifling men, then they can take the whole
lot of the them...Makes me laugh.

jozi
10:30 AM
14/02/2006
*.*.77.161

Re: Re: BAJAN WOMEN

While this could be true, that you are giving them away, I doubt this very
much. On afternoon delight one day there was a topic where the husband was
having a secret affair with a foreigner so the wife was saying he took all
her money (because they had a joint account)and bought tickets for this
foreign woman. A gentleman called in and said that it was the man's
money cause no bajan woman would have a joint account and keep putting her
money only. His reason being Bajan women are selfish and materialistic and
would save money elsewhere unknowing to their partner. Many male callers
agreed with him that they preferred foreign women to Bajan women.
I am not saying all Bajan women are like this
because that would be generalising, but I am saying that a lot of
Bajan women have this attitude that seems to be driving more and more of
their men away. If they feel like ridiculing their men in public they do
it, you know why because they have a job they feel they can do and say as
they please.
You could have as much degrees the highest paid job and at the end of
the day you are the unhappiest person around unless you have someone who
you respect and who respects you and I think this is the key to Bajan women
keeping their men loving them and respecting them.

juju101
08:00 PM
15/02/2006
*.*.32.85

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When I see most of these comment about Bajan men or Bajan women, I have to
ask myself where these comments are coming from – inside or outside of
Barbados, and it seems that this one is coming from within.

The majority of women the world over think that their money belongs to
them alone, while their husband's money is for the both of
them...Again, this is not uniquely a Bajan thing.

Prior to Women Suffrage, women were at the mercy of men, and
couldn't touch money ac*****ulated in the union without the
husband's permission, prior to that time we all know that men treated
their wives any ole way. Women have come a long way, and I guess they are
just exercising the financial freedom gained along the way.

sevelyn
03:59 PM
16/02/2006
*.*.150.188

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People, people, when two people in love is joined in holy matrimony and
they are both financially sound, the advise of their financial adviser is
always, have a joint account, a his account and a hers account. Now, if
the men are so stupid to make a joint account without having their own
account, then that's their a**es. Anyone, male or female should watch
their financiall assets, if they have any. Any one of us can be cruel and
vindictive at any time. Yours, Mine, Ours!!!! If it's not enough for
that, have the account set up so that no one can withdraw without the
other's presence.

Jameka
02:15 AM
17/02/2006
*.*.117.70

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The sweetest thing in marriage is when you start out with next to nothing
and work hard together to acquire possessions in both your names and joint
accounts. Then having the satisfaction of looking back at what you both
accomplished. You can't be a gravalicious man or woman wanting to hide
money matters from your spouse and hope to have a happy marriage filled
with love. Could that be why the men are looking elsewhere? I won't
say the following is true of all Barbadians,
(that would be stupid)but the ones I've known were materialistic
to the nth degree. I would find it stressful to live with such a person.
I'm not saying one should not be ambitious. You should. But one has to
relax and enjoy the sunshine, the laughter of children, the smell of earth
after a downpour. Money is very good. But it isn't everything. If that
were true, Marilyn Monroe would be a sweet old lady today.

jozi
12:27 PM
17/02/2006
*.*.12.21

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To really understand the unhappines of Bajan men and their desparation, set
up a yahoo account and put another country as your adress or put both
Barbados and another country. Now from experience, I can tell u that u get
so many unsolicited instant messages from men who are married but looking.
Why should u be married and looking. Now i know someone is going to say
that maybe I am looking too. But until i started being bombarded by these
instant messages i was not even aware that my profile was there for all and
sundry to see.

Now the money issue, of course a woman needs to have her own account,
but so too does the man so it means therefore that a joint account should
be set up to take care of the expenses of the household, vacations etc.
Now when there is a situation where the man only puts money into this
account why should he need the womans permission to take it out or
viceversa. My husband often times tell me that he thinks i am a Feminist
but my feminist attributes end when it comes to our relationship. I
don't ever want him to have any reasons to go looking elsewhere
because i feel that i am making money too so that i should express my
financial independence. I will not accept him treating me no other way
than that of a equal partner which means I give respect and in turn get it
back. Once each partner is treated in this manner there is no thought of
vindictiveness ever coming into play. So that the way women were treated
back then should not come into play because we are not dealing with the
same set of men.

Bimlady
01:31 AM
18/02/2006
*.*.65.78

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Jameka are you married?

juju101
03:16 AM
20/02/2006
*.*.245.230

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Jozi,

You wrote, "To really understand the unhappines of Bajan men and
their desparation, set up a yahoo account and put another country as your
adress or put both Barbados and another country."

What makes you think that Bajan men are any different from any other
nationality. Luv, there are desperate married and single men all over the
world that would say and do anything to attract the easy and gullible.
It's up to level headed women not to suc*****b to deceitful tactics!

Peace!

sevelyn
07:10 PM
21/02/2006
*.*.150.188

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This is a personal story, I married a man Bajan, I did not know that all he
wanted was a green card, anyway, to make a long story short, when I left
him, after he had a woman call my house and said that all he wanted was his
GC, and that it is time for me to leave, I had over $14,000 in my bank
account after 1 year of marriage. When his girl friend called me, I was
able to get an apartment that same week and move my ass out of his way, no
fuss, no muss, no hollering, no court mess. So when men are dishonest, it
is good to be stable. It also goes for women, because I know some women,
Bajan and otherwise who has done some cruel things to their spouses. I did
not take a cent of his money it was all mine and he knew about it.